Our society equates the nurturing touch with the feminine side of our population.' 'Most people would probably say they're more comfortable going to a female massage therapist. In my lingo, you're dealing with the heterophobes and the homophobes: the men who don't want to be touched by a man and the women, who, for whatever reason, don't want to be touched by a man. Walter Miller, a massage therapist based in Oak Park, says 'The male massage therapist gets the double whammy.